Module 1 - Understanding Our Programming

Chapter 1 - Why We Hurt: Seeking Peace But Creating Pain

Everyone wants to be whole. We seek to feel connected, accepted, aligned and united — both within ourselves and with the larger worlds of experience and interaction we participate in.

Some call this sense of wholeness a feeling of wellness or inner peace. Others call it completion or contentment. Most people simply call it happiness. But we aren’t talking about the kind of happiness created by possessions or achievements or by getting what you want. Such moments of joy are wonderful, yet just the same, they are fleeting. Often these moments can even be disappointing or less-than-expected. No, the kind of happiness I want to discuss here is that deep abiding happiness that is a comforting, ever-present baseline of emotional wellness from which you can enjoy the spectrum of feeling. One might call it Unconditional Happiness. 

Yet the average person does not feel whole or happy. Most feel disconnected from others, split apart or at war with varying parts of themselves, and lost to immense anger, fear, anxiety, jealousy or grief. Most of all, they feel stuck. They don’t know what to do. Because whenever they try to improve their situation, despite their best intentions, some part of them sabotages the process. Or bad things happen. Or damaging patterns in relationships, career or health resurface.

Such people often feel betrayed by their unconscious behaviors, victimized by their unwanted emotions, and abandoned by the part of them that promised things would get better

Some call this life. I call it the drama of rogue emotions. For it is the story of our human addiction to unhappiness.

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Chapter 2 - The Importance of Decompression: How to be Calm, Focused and Alleviate Pain

The importance of decompressing

Tension in the form of mental strain, muscle tension, or other painful scenarios all cause intense levels of unease, stress and pain. Finding ways to alleviate that pain through decompression and focus techniques have huge positive effects on our bodies and minds.

Introverts vs Extroverts

Begin by understanding your own personal characteristics by identifying yourself as an introvert or extrovert and the ways we naturally decompress and recharge on a daily basis.

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By acknowledging and identifying your own personal characteristics, you give yourself the freedom to choose a  daily decompression method that works for you personally. What works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another. Some methods however are powerful in their own unique way and can reach both types of people. A powerful yet simple practice for decompression that I have found to accommodate most people are what I like to call “Ocean Breaths”.  You don’t go as deep as you can using other practices but it’s a quick and effortless way to connect the mind, body and spirit with one another so that you are in alignment with yourself and present to your experience.

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Chapter 3 - Recognizing and Acknowledging Your Emotions

Let’s take a moment and discuss the  importance of acknowledging how you feel. The more you avoid your feelings, the greater the chance of an outburst of stress, rage, frustration, aggression, anger and even physical abuse to either yourself or someone else. Suppressing how you feel isn’t good for anyone. However, when you acknowledge how you feel at least to yourself, you give power to change. What this means is that you no longer are avoiding the obvious. You are facing the truth about how you are feeling. This brings light and perspective to the situation and also the willingness to explore the possibility of it changing. You cannot change something without actively verifying to yourself that you prefer to have a different experience. You need to acknowledge the original experience and then when you can see it for what it is, your mind (conscious and subconscious) will begin to search for an alternative. This is why it is so important to acknowledge how you feel. It may be painful at times but, through the pain comes peace and clarity and almost every time the anticipation or fear of exploring how you feel is worse than the pain itself that comes from your realizations.  

There’s  a difference between your feelings and your emotions. At first glance this may seem like a difficult concept to grasp  however, when you understand how they work together this relationship will shape your growth and evolution with respect to your psychology and how you feel about life in general. Emotions are more of a guide than an unwanted experience and feelings are a build up of energy that brings your attention to this guide. When you’re lost in the feelings alone, there’s no place to go for relief. This is why many people avoid how they are feeling and become reactive or worse turn to abusive behaviors such as drinking or other addictions. By separating the feelings that you are experiencing from your emotions, you develop awareness and direction. You go from an autopilot reaction to a conscious action and decision.

There’s usually more to the story around an autopilot reaction that happens when you avoid facing your feelings. This story is what we want to bring your attention to. By separating your feelings from your emotions you allow yourself to see a larger picture. One that entails a back story of some sort. People typically react because of their past experiences or experiences that they’ve witnessed happen to someone else or been taught a belief by someone influential to them. There’s basically a story playing in the background. 

When the feelings around the emotion being felt are removed, you are able to address the emotions itself. This is powerful because it allows you to see what that particular emotion is directing you to. By being conscious of your emotions, you naturally begin to see why you might be feeling the way that you are and then move in that direction to ultimately give yourself emotional peace.

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Chapter 4 - Emotional Footprints: The Unsung Architects of Emotion

What is an Emotional Footprint?

An Emotional Footprint is a sophisticated program designed to store emotions that were not processed and released at the time they were experienced. I believe this program serves to help us heal from any form of mental instability, emotional pain/suffering as well as aids us in our personal and spiritual evolution — a journey that steadily brings us back to love.

The purpose of an Emotional Footprint is to have you acknowledge and change deep rooted false beliefs to enhance the quality of your life. It does this by repeatedly triggering stored rogue emotions to point the finger to the lie that created the Emotional Footprint program in the first place. It’s a powerful tool that the subconscious uses to get your attention.  

While I am not here to discuss spiritual beliefs or ask you to believe anything specific about God, the universe or religion, it is important to note that the premise of Emotional Footprints lies in the core belief that these programs are designed to return us back to a state of peace and unconditional love by pointing out when we believe something that isn’t true about ourselves or our experience.

I’m not referring to external beliefs such as a belief that you had red socks on yesterday when in fact you wore blue ones. I’m talking about core beliefs about yourself and your reality. These core beliefs are detrimental to your health and emotional wellbeing and your subconscious knows this. Your beliefs dictate your reality. So, if your beliefs are limited what do you think your reality will be like?

So what happens when you believe a lie as if it were true? In essence, whenever this occurs, you experience a conflict that cannot be easily integrated into the brain and hence the emotional experience of the event cannot be processed, resulting in what is clinically defined in psychological and medical literature as trauma.

According to Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), trauma is defined as a sustained experience or sudden event that creates an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope or integrate the emotions involved with that experience.

The brain does not know how to cope with contradicting information about yourself or your reality. For the brain when a false belief enters it’s conscious awareness through an event, the subconscious creates an Emotional Footprint program. It stores the unprocessed emotion in order to bring it back at some point in the future as a rogue emotion to allow the conscious mind to try again and learn the truth of the matter. If the truth is not learned yet again, it will now store an additional unprocessed emotion and layer it on top of the original rogue one. This layering causes the rogue emotion to have more emotional charge to it. Eventually these rogue emotions develop so much of a charge that they can become unbearable and the brain has to look for an alternate solution to bring balance.

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Chapter 5 - Understanding Patterns

A pattern is a regular and unintelligible form or sequence discernible in certain actions or situations. Patterns vary widely from one another, from the simplest of daily routines to the ever evolving complexities of the developing world.

Sometimes patterns are tools we can use to guarantee cleanliness in our lives, designs, work, and more to provide stability and predictability to how we live. Other patterns, sequences of events, we utilize in order to learn. On the other hand,  we can look at our histories and identify negative traits through actions we’ve taken in the past. Whether it be small quirks that have made previous relationships rather turbulent, or patterns in our own daily habits that we recognize as inherently bad, yet choose to look the other way until it’s too late.

Can you relate to any of these simple statements below?

1. I get frustrated when a car driving ahead of me is going extremely slow in the fast lane on the high-way.

2. It’s annoying to hear someone clicking their pen in a conference room meeting.

3. I get frustrated or annoyed when someone interrupts me while I’m saying something important.

These statements seem pretty generic, and I am sure most people who read through these pages will agree, that at one point in time, these situations have brought strain to their calm. I want you to think about these events in detail, even if imaginary, how do they make you feel?

Some of us may say that they are frustrated beyond belief. Some of us might silently scream inside ourselves as a way to avoid confrontation.  While others may decide to confront them with anger and unease. These are all common reactions that most people never think twice about afterwards. They don’t stop to think about what it is inside of  them that is causing them to feel that way. They typically blame the situation for how they feel and then carry on.

So, what do these three statements all have in common?

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